How to Deal With Change
Accept reality. No doubt you would like to have
total control of your life, but that is simply not possible. Friends will move
away or marry; siblings will grow up and leave home; circumstances may force
your family to move, leaving behind friends and all that is familiar. It is
better to accept reality than to let negative thoughts overwhelm you.
Look ahead. Focusing on the
past is like driving on a highway with your eyes fixed on the rearview mirror.
An occasional glance is beneficial, but you really need to concentrate on the
road ahead. The same is true when you are confronted with change. Try to keep
your eyes fixed on the future. For example, what goal could you set for the
next month, or six months?
Focus on the positive. “Resilience
is about attitude,” says a young woman named Laura. “Find positive aspects of
the circumstance you are in.” Can you list at least one advantage that your new
circumstance offers?
A young woman named Victoria recalls that in
her teen years, all her close friends moved away. “I felt so lonely, and I
wished that everything could have stayed the way it was,” she says. “But
looking back, that’s when I really started to grow. I came to realize that
growth requires change. That’s also when I started seeing
possibilities for new friendships that were all around me.”
Focusing on the
past is like driving on a highway with your eyes fixed on the rearview mirror
Do things for others.: “Look
out not only for your own interests, but also for the interests of others.” A
good antidote to your own challenge is helping others with theirs. Anna, 17, says: “As I
grew older, I came to realize that when I could help someone else who might be
going through a similar situation
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